When we give in to these cravings, we can do things that hurt the people around us. Don't Sweat the Demanding Boss. Although the phrase above may indeed be true, it is self-destructive. Worrying about the future will only cause you unneeded stress and hinder your productivity. Think about it for a moment. Author Richard Carlson learned this lesson a few years ago when something happened that planted the seed of this book, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff. The people you communicate with will feel much more relaxed around you when they feel heard and listened to. These days, people do exactly the opposite of what Richard says in this book.
Amount of energy it takes to try to be in two heads at once! How did you feel when you were at peace within your mind? It is best to just accept the fact that there are days when everything will go wrong. This is something I'd invite you to do as well if you want to achieve while living a happy and fulfilling life. Publication Date: 2001 |. Then, it's time to put your ego aside and avoid petty arguments in which you have to be right or prove a point. Tap into Your Secret Stress-Buster. For instance, you might think you don't have to read books after finishing your academic education. Suggestions like company work-out rooms and other employee perks can help build a less stressful and worry-free working environment. Sometimes, a sequence of thoughts might have terrible consequences. She woke up half an hour late and therefore couldn't go for a run with her running partner, her daughter didn't like how she did her hair, and her husband mixed lights with darks when he did the laundry. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff has some content overlap with The Power of Now when it encourages the readers to focus on the present and to "live in the moment" instead of worrying of what might happen in the future. Don't allow yourself to lose your cool.
Make the best of the job you have now. We get angry over things like waiting in line, listening to unfair criticism, and even traffic. Stop trying to please others. Pay attention to your thoughts and try to dismiss the self-defeating ones. Written in 100 brief chapters with titles like "Save Your Pot-Stirring For Cooking Dinner" and "Merge The Spiritual And Material Worlds" "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff for Women" by Kristine Carlson is an inspiring and uplifting book that talked to me on a lot of different levels. The best way to deal with bureaucracy is to maximize your efficiency the best way you can. This way, we can maintain our own sense of well-being and avoid taking other people's problems personally. The best way to get over this fear is to put yourself in as many situations as possible to speak publicly. Chapter 5: Practice Kindness. When the author suggests going out and getting exercise/getting dirty every day and follows it up by explaining she does this by riding her horse, I felt the reality of our lives and our potential ways of coping with problems were pretty far apart.
So women will pack their schedule full, stress and hurry on a daily basis, and then they find themselves "sweating the small stuff. " And if we can change our thoughts. And that's truly empowering. By clearing your mind of focused thinking, you become responsive. Focusing on the present thus becomes essential. Closer examination, aren't really that big a deal.
Lacks depth in some areas. Planets, in some senses. A quick, enjoyable read. Most of the time, people have selfish reasons for doing charity-type things. Meanwhile, those who continue to correct others are often the most resented. Do you get angry as a stranger cuts you off in traffic? Stop Anticipating Tiredness. I liked that the book was specifically geared towards women because we can tend to be in our heads a lot. We are all driven by a need to look good and "important".
Suppose you've got a book to write. And in that limited time, you can only do so much. Remember that your career and the problems that come with it are your choice. Never, Ever Backstab. Never Market Your Good Deeds. Learn how to deal with negativity. Many of us might even tell someone else about the incident later on rather than simply let it go.
"TGIT" stands for "Thank God It's Today. " I know many people -and you probably do too- that take things often way too seriously. It's time you start planning some time for yourself instead without putting it off any further. And as you do good, you must also be able to judge characters that are not going to do good things back. The professor would go out and I still wouldn't copy. This book can help you take a step back and, well, chill a little bit more. Chapter 8: Final Summary. Next, you need to change your perspective and discover what you can learn from that person or that problem. This way, you will be happy everyday. So how can you silence your ego and allow others to be right?
Encourage Company Stress-Busters. If you don't want to help anybody, it's okay. Instead of complaining about the situation, try coming up with a solution. Search the history of over 800 billion. When you know that some people have an advantage from the start, you get more perspective. It's similar to setting financial goals. To stop that, you've to observe your chain of thoughts and break the chain as soon as it forms. Stop complaining that you are stuck in the rat race. That'll give you more confidence and pleasure than you'd get with hogging all the glory due to your ego. Wisdom is as important as analytical thinking at work.
Every day is important so you might as well be happy right now. Your guide to exceptional books. It's an inability to just chill--a lack of mindfulness. © Dr Richard Carlson 1997.
Or do you try to finish their sentences and hurry them along to complete their thought? Due to a planned power outage on Friday, 1/14, between 8am-1pm PST, some services may be impacted. Let me know in the comments. Even in your busy life, you can take as little as five to ten minutes a day to train your mind to be still and quiet. When you commit to working toward this goal you will find that you will have far more energy to be kinder and gentler. Unfortunately, many of us lead busy lives. But what's the point of talking about it. Before reacting defensively to something someone has said, breathe, relax and genuinely listen. And how much time do you think you spent on those unproductive activities? Get through the situation and go on your way. Of course, letting others be right doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your deepest philosophical truths or most heartfelt opinions, but starting today, let others be 'right, ' most of the time! I purchased several copies as gifts for my girlfriends and female family members. Don't postpone or procrastinate the inevitable, no matter how unsavory it might be.