Allow her to witness your process one day at a time. You want better for your son than what you had but you worry that you won't be able to give him things that you never knew yourself. I held you close and promised I would try harder. The same sentiment applies to discussion boards meant to connect mothers. Letter to a new mom's blog. You are his whole world right now. Perhaps you're feeling a bit blue or disconnected from everything? I yearn for your bath time and to see you kick and splash the water with joy.
Try to spend the next 3 months being as present as you possibly can. As you pour yourself another cup of coffee, pour grace into your heart as well. You don't have to change who you are. All the things I wish I could say to my past self…. Therefore, she accepts you exactly as you are. Long story short, my son also ended up having respiratory issues and was taken to the NICU to join his sister. Wherever you are right now, whether you are still in the hospital just hours into the postpartum journey, home with your newborn, watching your toddler explore the world around them, or waiting for your kid to come home from school, I ask you to pause and take in this moment. When you find yourself feeling alone, perhaps as you rock your baby in the middle of the night, as you cuddle your toddler to sleep, as you wonder whether you can handle another diaper blowout, as you work through guilt and agonize over little missteps, just remember, I see you. When you feel like the weight of it all is heavy in your heart, please know I've never felt lighter. A Love Letter to All My Fellow First-Time Moms. Give yourself some grace. There is so much to learn every single day, so any tips that can make things easier for you, WELCOME with open ears. Most of your friends are probably going to think you're a hypochondriac, but your babies are actually going to have reflux, colic, eczema, constipation, motion sickness, allergies, lactose intolerance, infinite ear infections, colds and any other weird and wonderful virus you can catch, such as hand foot and mouth. I did have personal expectations though, and most were grandeur thoughts of happiness and success bringing you into the world. I can't tell you what that may look like, but I can tell you it needs to make sense to you.
It took me one week to realize my son didn't care if he had perfectly matching receiving blankets or "going home" outfits. For what comes easily to you may not for some, and what you're having difficulties with in these early days may be a drop in the hat for the person you're judging. What's "best" is between you and your child. These dark moments were kept secret, and at times I even tried to push them down so deep that I may ignore them. Pick and choose your battles. An Open Letter to a New Mom | Life. It's ok if productivity looks different now. As the anxiety creeps in and your woes become overbearing, try to keep perspective. You will also witness your strength and resilience. I know it's hard to fit these in after delivering, but they are so important in making sure your healing is on track. It's a new kind of love; a shining diamond of a thing that you had no way of imagining before. The anesthesiologist thought I was having anxiety because I was talking a lot throughout the c-section, so he decided to give me a little "something extra" in my IV to take the edge off.
You're perfect to me. You're in charge here. Maybe push a double stroller and put a few groceries in the storage under the seats JUST to get out of the house and feel accomplished. The challenges, emotions, pain, worry and exhaustion are truly overwhelming. I know it doesn't feel like it but you are doing great. Whether its via a C-section or a natural birth, the most important thing is that both you and the baby are healthy and well. I am sending you all the love, hugs, and support. What isn't ok is when you allow fleeting moments of weaknesses let you spiral into complete self-doubt, that you end up comparing yourself to every other mother or parent out there. What works for some, doesn't work for others. We knew you were amazing, even when you didn't. Letter to mom from kids. Discuss these concerns with your partner or support network, and figure out what fits best for your family. You are dying to yourself for the love and survival of your baby. They have been trying to sell to you that you're too fat, too dull, too stupid, too dirty, not sexy enough and that your sexuality is a sin.
Jaundice left your body and you began to grow.